Boy, it is so easy to give in to anger. Isn’t it?
Someone says something mean, and we want to be mean back…
Someone neglects us, and we want to make them feel left out too…
Someone abandons us, and we want to hunt them down, find them, and scream at them!
Or…we want to give them the silent treatment whenever we see them so they know that you’re angry….(this is bad too my friends!)
“Be patient and wait for the Lord to act….don’t give in to worry or anger; it only leads to trouble. Psalms 37:7-8 (Good News Translation).
Whenever we feel wronged by a person or a situation, it is tempting to allow our thoughts or our perception to control usinto thinking we are right for seeking revenge both in giving the silent treatment or in verbally responding to the person.
However, David encourages us in Psalms to be patient and wait on the Lord. Wait for what?
Wait for Him to give you the words to say to the person, wait for the situation to explain itself (you may have thought one thing and then found out it wasn’t what you even thought), and wait for peace to control you instead of anger.
While you are waiting:
1. Calm down, slow down and take deep breaths.
2. Ask yourself “How can I reflect God in this situation?”
3. Choose to think pure thoughts about the person and about the situation (don’t insult, name call, etc. even if it’s only in your head)
4. Recite a memory verse to remind you of the right thing to do (this is why it’s important to memorize them-so you can gain strength in weak moments! :))
5. Do the right thing because it is the right thing to do-NOT because the person deserves it.
6. Talk to them calmly and patiently and let them know that you were hurt or angry with their actions. Allow only one person to talk at a time, avoid lengthy spats (so the person can respond), and agree to not raise your voice at one another. If you find it difficult to do this, ask for another UNBIASED friend to join in on the conversation…
Be of good courage, you can exercise self-control, good behavior, great thoughts, and a healthy attitude EVEN in the midst of your anger.