Anger is a very normal emotion, but if you’re struggling to control your anger it can be very upsetting.
So gain control with these nine tips.
1. Admit Your Anger If you’re angry, be honest with yourself about it.
2. Evaluate Your Anger Ask yourself, “what triggers my anger?? When am I most likely to feel anger?”
3. Choose Your Perception Slow down and put the problem in perspective. Frame the situation in as positive a way as you can
4. Calm Yourself Down If your anger is getting out of control, lower your voice, sit down, and breathe deeply. If you still can’t calm down, remove yourself from the situation
5. Watch Your Words & Actions When you’re angry, it is easy to say and do things you will later regret. Watch carefully what you say; once those words are out of your mouth, you can never take them back.
6. Work Your Anger Out Anger produces adrenaline and adrenaline seeks release. You need to work your anger out. Go for a drive, weed a garden, chop wood, write a letter, or take a walk.
7. Talk About Your Anger Take responsibility for your feelings. Be direct and honest without blaming or attacking. If you’re overreacting, admit it. The better you can communicate about your anger, the more you can control it.
8. Don’t Let the Sun Go Down On Your Anger Commit yourself to resolving your anger as soon as possible. Unresolved anger turns into bitterness, revenge, or both. The sooner you handle your anger, the better.
9. Seek Help If your anger persists or is out of control, get help immediately. Talk to a counselor or a pastor or a physician and develop a more intensive plan.
Source: The Big Book of Lists to Live By For Everything That Really Matters
These tips are very helpful and I encourage you to not only use them, but print them out and carry it with you until you have them memorized. Be free from handling your anger in a negative way, the emotion of anger is NOT bad-it’s how you handle it that determines if it’s bad or good. 🙂
With God’s Grace, Love, and Comfort…